Toxic Habits to Leave Behind in 2017
And why wouldn’t you want to do yourself this favor?
It’s a bitter pill to swallow, but everyone is guilty of harboring a toxic habit or two. It’s something we chalk up to life lessons, tie to some rite of passage or simply call a part of growing up. Either way, it’s nice to be done with the unnecessary weight caused by a nasty habit. “Never again,” we tell ourselves.
With the new year right around the corner, there’s no better time to set this all straight (another year older, another year wiser, right?) and contemplate: “Am I in need of a detox for the mind, body and soul?” Really, there’s nothing more liberating than this realization: that the byproduct of a seemingly harmless bad habit, when lumped together, negatively affect our lives bigtime. Let that serve as motivation to get this all going.
Here, toxic habits we best leave behind in 2017:
#1: Always wanting to prove that you are right.
There’s getting something right and then there’s wanting to prove that you are right. The latter, unfortunately, is not a concern about getting the facts; it’s about feeding the ego. It’s easy, too, for Mr. or Ms. Right-All-The-Time to be misconstrued as Mr. or Ms. My-Way-Is-Best-Your-Way-Is-Useless…and no one likes being around someone who cannot think of anyone else other than themselves.
Hey. It’s okay to yield. It’s good for you.
#2: Shaming strangers on the internet or in real life.
Just because something you see online or in real life isn’t aligned with your beliefs, habits, lifestyle, traditions, aesthetic or personal journey doesn’t give you the right to sound off about it. Your unfortunate lack of empathy isn’t a badge to wear proudly on your chest; it’s actually a true shame. And it’s really best to hold back on providing opinions that nobody asked for.
#3: Calling people out.
Ah, call-out culture. It’s a double-edged sword.
Calling out someone in order to address an incident is one way to let others know where you stand. In some instances, it can lead to a meaningful dialogue, a jumping-off point that paves the way for opportunity, for raising awareness, for giving neglected voices time to speak up. On the other hand, as good as calling someone out is for shedding light on an issue, it’s bad for those on both sides. So, who gains the most out of someone being called out? It’s the audience watching, the spectators ready with their popcorn as shit is about to go down.
If it isn’t your story to tell, don’t tell it. Plain and simple.
Surely your friendships have a lot more depth and a lot more going for them than juicy gossip. As something that usually starts out as a by-the-way or form of amusement, it’s one toxic habit that eventually backfires.
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#5: Holding grudges.
It’s understandable to think you are protecting yourself from future hurt by keeping those who wronged you in the past top-of-mind, but it’s the kind of preoccupation that eats away at you. Swear to not forget, fine, but forgive. Live and let live. And do it for yourself.
Remember: “Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
#6: Blaming external factors for your circumstances.
There’s no bigger disservice to yourself and your unique set of wonderful capabilities than insisting that the state you are in now is merely caused by the things that have acted upon you. So much for empowerment, right?
A good place to start? Cut out blame from your daily lingo.
#7: Showing up late to your commitments.
This one may seem harmless (ma-traffic naman talga kasi sa EDSA), but it sends the message that you don’t value the time of others. To affect an entire team’s work schedule because you failed to plan your day is inconsiderate. That’s one easy one to be branded as unprofessional, too. Be it social commitments, projects with clients or planned recreational activities, show the parties involved the respect they deserve by showing up on time and prepared for whatever it is you have lined up.
Because there’s a difference between offloading to feel better and offloading excessively. The latter doesn’t accomplish anything, but causes you to circle down the drain of negativity…while dragging down everyone else around you. Reactive people whine; proactive people find solutions...often quietly.
#9: Drinking to escape your problems.
Looking to evade real-world problems by acquiring a potential drinking problem? You like irony?
The occasional celebratory drink is fine, but to attempt to drink away problems is only asking for more problems: the morning-after hangover, the empty wallet from you pissing your money away and—would you look at that!—those real-world problems are still right there waiting for the adult in you to step it up and just deal.
If you find that you’re guilty of any of these, know that the acknowledgement right there is already a step in the right
direction. Here’s to a lighter, brighter and wiser 2018 (without any of these toxic habits to set us back).
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